2022 New Year, New You: Divorce Wellness Tips [Guest Blog]

Isn’t it time to focus on your own Wellness as we approach a New Year with 2022?

Working with Divorce Mediation couples, I’ve realized how important it is during divorce (as well as before and after) to really focus on staying healthy and growing in a positive direction to evolve into a better you – for yourself and for your family.

I just had the pleasure of running into Kimberly Kingsley at a holiday party and was blown away by the work she’s doing.  Although she’s a trained psychotherapist, she works as a “Wellness Coach.”  Here are some wonderful New Year’s (and all year) tips from Kimberly, perfect for those of you looking to emerge better, healthier as you transition forward through divorce.

2022: New Year, New You by Kimberly Kingsley

Are you ready to say goodbye to 2021? If the answer is yes, you’re not alone. These last years have been filled with so many ups and downs that it feels like we’ve been on a non-stop rollercoaster ride.

The new year brings hope. We hope that we’ll experience more peace, more love, and more health. We hope that we will have the opportunity to both rest and serve. We hope that this year—finally—will be the year that we emerge from our tight-fitting cocoon as a bright butterfly taking flight.

All this is possible.

It is important to remember that change and transformation are different. They can appear the same but if a caterpillar simply climbs up a tree, it will still be a caterpillar when it gets to the top. Transforming into a different and lighter being requires that we let go and surrender to the inherent wisdom that is trying to carry us forward.

Transformation—true transformation—is not for the faint at heart but is reserved for those of us who seek to emerge as the highest version of ourselves.

If you desire to evolve into your highest self in 2022, here are a few key principles of nature that promise to carry you forward:

  • Listen deeply. To yourself. You have very specific instructions deep inside of you that are DESIGNED to carry you forward. Messages like, “Stay away from that person,” or “Cut back on the wine…” whisper in the depths of your being patiently waiting to be heard.
  • Protect your energy. There’s a reason that caterpillars don’t socially book every moment of the day while in a cocoon, it takes energy to transform! Evaluate everything you do and ask yourself, “Is this feeding my soul or simply keeping me busy?” If it’s the latter, then you know you’re avoiding a piece of your own transformation.
  • Detach from the outcome. Okay, this is a tough one. When you begin to listen to yourself and honor the voice of life inside you, EVERYTHING that no longer serves you begins to unravel. Don’t be surprised if a childhood friendship or a 20-year career starts to come apart at the seams. It’s okay. If you have already been going through this, as many have, then know that some of the hard stuff is behind you and your only job is to return to step one and keep the process going.
  • Give yourself all the grace you would give your infant child. You are doing your best. Every single time you look in the mirror and don’t like what you see, or feel yourself submerged in waves of intense emotion, BE THERE FOR YOURSELF with presence and kindness. Nothing in this world can transform without a healthy attachment, your healthy attachment is you. Be nice.

It’s time. Your DNA knows how to shed, evolve and emerge as a new you, over and over again. After the start of the year, spring is coming. Your second spring—A chance at new life.


Happy New Year,


Kimberly Kingsley is a psychotherapist and wellness counselor in Scottsdale, Arizona. To learn more, visit kimberlykingsley.com or tune into her podcast, High Vibrational Life.