Staying Mentally Strong Through Divorce

Many of my divorce mediation clients express their desire to become happier, healthier and stronger as they move forward from their divorce.  Some start a new exercise program, some take vacations to exotic places, and some start a new career.  I noticed that those mediation clients with a strong, positive mental outlook seem to thrive.

I think that is why the following post by Awais Sheikh on Linked In received over 17,000 views recently.  The message of strength and positive attitude really resonated with many, including myself:

17 Things Mentally Strong People Do

Nov 8, 2014

  1. They move on. They don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves.
  2. They keep control. They don’t give away their power.
  3. They embrace change. They welcome challenges.
  4. They stay happy. They don’t complain. They don’t waste energy on thing they can’t control.
  5. They are kind, fair, and unafraid to speak up. They don’t worry about pleasing other people.
  6. They are willing to take calculated risks. They weigh the risks and benefits before taking action.
  7. They invest their energy in the present. They don’t dwell on the past.
  8. They accept full responsibility for their past behavior. They don’t make the same mistake over and over.
  9. They celebrate other people’s success. They don’t resent that success.
  10. They are willing to fail. They don’t give up after failing. They see every failure as a chance to improve.
  11. They enjoy their time alone. They don’t fear being alone.
  12. They are prepared to work and succeed on their own merits. They don’t feel the world owes them anything.
  13. They have staying power. They don’t expect immediate results.
  14. They evaluate their core beliefs and modify as needed.
  15. They expend their mental energy wisely. They don’t spend time on unproductive thoughts.
  16. They think productively. They replace negative thoughts with productive thoughts.
  17. They tolerate discomfort. They accept their feelings without being controlled by them.

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