If you have heard about divorce mediation, you’ve probably heard that the mediator is a neutral 3rd party who assists a couple in reaching agreements to move forward through the divorce process. Many may interpret this as the mediator being “impartial.” However, recently there has been a paradigm shift as mediation becomes more well known and a preferred path for many divorcing couples. Instead of a completely impartial 3rd party who has no perspective, opinions or interest in the outcome, mediators are defining themselves as “multi-partial.”
What does that mean? Well, I know that when I’m working with a couple, I’m completely invested in their outcome. Not what specific decisions they make or who gets what, but I’m completely committed to helping them move forward in a healthy more peaceful manner while looking out for everyone’s best interest. I’m also steadfast in my dedication to help families avoid the lengthy, stressful, awful (my opinion, but do you disagree?) litigation process. My goal is that they will move forward through a collaborative mediation process or reconcile and remain friendly throughout.
So, calling me an impartial mediator just no longer seems accurate. I am partial. I’m multi-partial. I’m there to support each person in the family and be a sounding board, a brainstorming partner, a voice of reason (I hope), and an impetus for creative problem-solving and positive change.
If you’d like to discuss your situation with a “multi-partial” mediator, feel free to call me. I’m happy to get involved!